I went through the whole new first home buying a few years ago, and my best advice for you is to do your reseach. If you go with a builder, check them out WELL. Talk to the Better Business Bureau in your area, the home builders association, and people in the neighborhood. You may find out that the builder has some problems or that they are awesome. If you go with a realtor, check them out as well, make certain they are properly certified through the real estate board. Here is a piece of advice I was given...make certain you will be in your house at least five years, if you plan to resell. If you are in an area where it is not a seller's market which bumps up your equity a little faster (but I think you are), it will take you about five years to pay enough to have any equity in your house. If not, you will be out of pocket the money for commissions and closing costs when you sell. If you plan to keep it and rent it out when you are transferred, you may not be able to do a VA loan. I know you cannot rent out your house when you have an FHA loan, you have to go conventional. In the loan papers I signed on my house (FHA), it explicitly states that the house may not be used as rental property. So make certain you look into that as well.As far as down payments, because you are military, don't you qualify for a VA loan? On a VA loan, if I remember correctly, you do not have to put anything down. Times may have changed since my parents got theirs, but check into that. Most of the time, if you are a first time buyer, there are incentives out there, look for them. These incentives will help you pay your closing costs, if they aren't covered by the VA loan.As for up-grading everything in the house, bad idea, unless you do it outside of the builder. Had I upgraded my appliances through my builder, I would have paid almost $2000 more than I paid at Home Depot. One of my neighbors had the builder put in their garage door opener, the opener, without labor, was $300. I paid $200, with installation, from Sears. So be VERY careful about upgrading with the builder, you will get ripped off. One of the other things you need to consider, is if you have it rolled into your mortgage, you will be paying for those upgrades for the life of your mortgage. It is like I was told, 10-years down the road, when you buy a new appliance, and pay it off, you will still be paying for the old one. It just isn't worth it - save up your $$$ and get what you want.Also, make certain you check out the cost of utilities, taxes, etc.I hope some of this information is helpful. Just be very certain this is what you want to do and you are ready for the committment. If your neighbors, or the neighborhood or the house itself suck, you can't break your lease and move.Best of luck in your decision. P.S. Here is a book a friend of mine said you might want to check out.
http://www.booksamillion.com/n...83288 I have no clue if this book is going to be helpful or not. I used one put out by HUD.
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