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russ257 · Post by **russ257** » Wed Dec 03, 2003 3:26 pm

ok so i have been going out with this girl for about a week. I think that I love her. I am not sure because i have never been in love before and I dont really know what love is. I have been trying to figure it out and have determined that it is not a quantifiable thing. you can't be told what love is, you will just know but the problem is i dont know. I do think it is love though. Anyway i was contimplating telling her this. i have been advised that it has not been long enough and it will freek her out. what do you guys think?

Raven · Post by **Raven** » Wed Dec 03, 2003 6:34 pm

Don't tell here yet, you might scare her away. Oh to be young again!

cibomatto · Post by **cibomatto** » Wed Dec 03, 2003 7:06 pm

yeah, don't go right out and say it. Relax a bit. Be a loyal friend and stuff to build some good foundation. Ah yes... to be young again.... good luck

drunkenmaxx · Post by **drunkenmaxx** » Wed Dec 03, 2003 10:37 pm

i would say it is a little too early to be love. you don't even know the real person yet. give it time, you could end up hating her in a month. she will respect you more if you take a while for that stuff. besides, chicks love it when you act less interested, it drives them nuts, kind of gives them a goal to shoot for.

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dmitri · Post by **dmitri** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 12:55 am

ehhhhim 17 so u mite say i dunno much but 1 week isnt enough. thats lust. plenty of that for me...

pmh013 · Post by **pmh013** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 1:03 am

Quote, originally posted by drunkenvibe Â» chicks love it when you act less interested, it drives them nuts, kind of gives them a goal to shoot for.No we don't love that. If you act less interested, I think you don't care, and then I start to cry and ask what the point is of this relationship. You will get more miles out of acting like you care, like you have lust for her (ya, I wouldn't go to love just yet), and let things take their course.You could always try telling her that you do really like her. That will get you some major brownie points!

drunkenmaxx · Post by **drunkenmaxx** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 1:10 am

ah, see the average woman is the beast. if you act weak, they will walk on you, even if it is unknowingly. if you worship them, they think they got you by the boo boos and tend to not care what you think, cause they think you'll always be there sucking (removed). you can be very nice, just nothing rediculous, at least in the early stages. definitely don't tell her you love her in the first week, high school is over!-i too, love that romantic stuff (this may be hard to believe due to my obnoxious nature) i used to do a lot of creative/romantic things for girls, but they never really appreciate it as much as i would. maybe all the ones i've tried were just b*tches...

TheDude · Post by **TheDude** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 1:26 am

im young as well, 19 at that...i dunno with in a week but give it time you'll know though when you are

joatmon · Post by **joatmon** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 1:37 am

Be yourself. Let her see who you really are, a relationship based on pretending will crash and burn. Communicate. Give it time. If it's real, it will take time to develop, but the long term can definitely be worth it if you are honest and objective about what you're getting into. Try to see who she really is as a person. That's what you will love, not the body that it rides around in.Off topic, but there's a "lips emoticon" here

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Geo · Post by **Geo** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 5:58 am

Here's what I went through with my current GF:Was out with her for a while, felt something was there.Thought about saying "I love you" then waited a week. I hinted at it before, however, but never said it actually, so she sorta got the hint. That in turn gave her time to think about it, and it worked out perfectly. With that little hint, she had thought about it as well and we are actually both in love, having wholly fallen for eachother.This also explains why I am not on GenVibe as much as I used to be in the beginning too It's hard to explain the feeling, I'm also a hopeless romantic at times, but then agian, so is she so it kinda works out. For me, I know that there is no one else I want to be with and that I can honestly see myself growing old with her. But then again, I'm just 20 and she's 21 and we're still kinda young ... but should things not change, well ... true love. ahhh

AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 2:47 pm

ahhh.... i remember that feeling... on top of the world, nothing could stop me.... but then.... oh well. i would definitely wait to say "i love you" because unless you trully know you do, they're just words. and what happens in 2 weeks from now if you realize you only lust her and not love her? it's more hurtful to say things that you don't really understand then to wait and make sure. besides, after only 1 week, you don't know her and that will probably freak her out.in highschool, my long time bf told me he loved me after a month and it made it really awkward because i didn't love him. he got upset because i could only say that i really liked him or that i loved spending time with him. wait, enjoy her company. don't play games becasue that will really screw things up. then you may lose her and realize you really do love her! love is awesome when it's the right person. and if it doesn't work out with her, then she's just not the right one for you. and geo, that's great! you guys are still young and have time to make your decisions for the future. it's better to wait and make sure than speed it up, assume, and get heart broken if it doesn't work out. from my experience, you can't rush love.

AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 2:50 pm

Quote, originally posted by pmh013 Â»No we don't love that. If you act less interested, I think you don't care, and then I start to cry and ask what the point is of this relationship. You will get more miles out of acting like you care, like you have lust for her (ya, I wouldn't go to love just yet), and let things take their course.You could always try telling her that you do really like her. That will get you some major brownie points!pmh, i agree whole heartedly. playing games gets you just that... someone is a loser and someone a winner. rarely do you actually come out ahead. and dman, maybe the women you're dating are just the wrong ones! if you want someone to be upfront and honest with you, then you need to reciprocate that. who has time to play games? life's short! get to the point!

drunkenmaxx · Post by **drunkenmaxx** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 10:50 pm

no no no! i didn't mean to play games! i was just saying, there are those girls that you want to send flowers every day, you can't do that. that's all i meant

Raven · Post by **Raven** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 10:56 pm

One very important question, is she HOT? You're much too young to start having ugly girlfriends.

drunkenmaxx · Post by **drunkenmaxx** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 11:03 pm

i have discovered that ugly girls can be the key to hapiness...sounds weird, but it's true. hot chicks have a hot chick mentality. not so hot chicks have to earn their men, plus they usually have more personality. (nothing against our beautiful genvibe ladies)

Nervous_Dog · Post by **Nervous_Dog** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 11:13 pm

A week is too early. You can enjoy being with someone without being in love. (That's not playing games, it's called dating)Besides, if she's not ready to say it you'll freak her out. Then you won't have her around, and it doesn't sound like that's what you want.Find out more about her. At 1 week, you're still on your best behavior. At 1 month, you're acting a little more like yourself, and so is she. 3 months down the road she might be so comfortable around you that she's a completely different person, and you might not love THAT person.

russ257 · Post by **russ257** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 11:25 pm

you guys all make very valid points so i am gonna wait. I have told her i really really like her though

drunkenmaxx · Post by **drunkenmaxx** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 11:26 pm

basically, wait until you are farting in front of her...

Nervous_Dog · Post by **Nervous_Dog** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 11:40 pm

Not exactly farting, but some form of bodily noise would be ideal. I didn't mean he had to wait 3 months, but if he says it now then in 3 months he decides she isn't the one, he's been telling her he loves her for 11 weeks! I'm just saying, make an informed decision. You don't buy the first car you test drive, you try a few, weigh the +'s and -'s, then buy a Vibe

Nervous_Dog · Post by **Nervous_Dog** » Thu Dec 04, 2003 11:41 pm

Quote, originally posted by russ257 Â»you guys all make very valid points so i am gonna wait. I have told her i really really like her though Good job!!

Merzbow · Post by **Merzbow** » Fri Dec 05, 2003 10:58 am

Being 16, no one believes I have experiened it yet, though I know I have and am still with my girl friend Kelsey(6 months, pretty long for HS relationship eh?) Love is definate, and you don't need to ask yourself if you do or don't. Missing her the instant she leaves you, thinking about her constantly. Wanting to be with her all day and all night...blah blah blah...you love her then. It is possible to love someone after one week, so it could very well be:) I would also have to agree with Drunken, Wait a while and give her something to work for...you wouldn't want to experience one of those "female power trips" where they expect you to make all the plans and to call her. It makes them feel good knowing you come to them without them having to lift a finger...get it?

Merzbow · Post by **Merzbow** » Fri Dec 05, 2003 11:06 am

Drunken, I experienced that "too nice" thing too...so I simply stopped calling her and stopped asking her out until she came to me. Now she knows what's up and that this relationship takes two people. As I referred to it as the "female power trip" in my last post

dmitri · Post by **dmitri** » Fri Dec 05, 2003 11:17 am

lol she better be hot.heres my new girl, heather: oh btw heathers on the right, the one on the left is her little sister

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AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Fri Dec 05, 2003 2:17 pm

Quote, originally posted by drunkenvibe Â»no no no! i didn't mean to play games! i was just saying, there are those girls that you want to send flowers every day, you can't do that. that's all i meantgotcha. yes, then I agree. although it might seem romantic at first, you don't want to be smothered. i think the same goes for guys. you don't want to be planning the wedding after the first date. Quote, originally posted by drunkenvibe Â»i have discovered that ugly girls can be the key to hapiness...sounds weird, but it's true. hot chicks have a hot chick mentality. not so hot chicks have to earn their men, plus they usually have more personality. (nothing against our beautiful genvibe ladies)lol! that is very true, dman. however, i have to disagree that us genvibe beauties do not act that way... (removed)! i for one, seem to be in your boat and date all the losers... and then some. so, it goes both ways.

Mavrik · Post by **Mavrik** » Thu Jun 17, 2004 11:16 am

Quote, originally posted by trdvibe Â»lol! that is very true, dman. however, i have to disagree that us genvibe beauties do not act that way... (removed)! i for one, seem to be in your boat and date all the losers... and then some. so, it goes both ways. So whatcha saying now?

AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Thu Jun 17, 2004 11:21 am

Quote, originally posted by Mavrik Â»So whatcha saying now? jury's still out on that one. j/kok, maybe not ALL losers, just the ones so far in the past. there, is that better??

Celtic_Curse · Post by **Celtic_Curse** » Thu Jun 17, 2004 3:28 pm

Telling her you really really like her is good keep telling her that you really like her and that you care for her deeply and that should keep things going longer until your both sure it's Love. There is nothing worse than telling someone you love them and getting the uncomfertable silence from not receiving it back. Just my two cents.

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