At Risk of sounding like a Whiner...

[rebbierae]

I'm feeling all alone right now. My Dad died one year ago, and now my mom is having some health problems--nothing too serious at this point, but she may have to have surgery. She called me here at work this morning to tell me she'd ended up calling 911 and going to the ER because of the pain. She's doing ok now, and because of this, the appointment with a specialist she had in a couple weeks got pushed up to Monday, which is good. But it just upsets me to think of my parent(s) like this, and I'm FAR too sensitive. I'm sitting here at my desk, all alone--I'm a receptionist and therefore can't leave my desk--I'm teary eyed right now and I have NO one to talk to, so I thought I'd appeal to my Gen Vibe buddies to keep me company. LIfe sucks sometimes. And mine isn't even that bad.

[Mrizzle05]

WOW... im really sorry to hear that. i hope shes ok!I lost BOTH my great grandparents when i was in college in AZ. i couldnt visit them or anything due to money and distance... they both passed a month from each other... they were my world. I was soooo sad to lose both w/ in a month. so i can feel your pain.*If i lost my mom i would just be destroyed inside... shes been by my side for everything my dad didnt support or care bout.Ill keep her in my prayers and hope she had many years left with you.take some time to spend with her and embrace your time together.were here for you aswell

[AKLGT]

sorry to hear that. sounds like you are very close to your folks. I know I am too and it would be pretty tough for me if either of them "moved" on. however, you have your fiance and mom, so don't lose sight of that. You can't dwell on the past because it's not healthy, just remember the good times you had, all the great memories. I'm sure your mom misses him just as badly if not more, so keep that in mind too. Enjoy that time and be thankful she's still around. And don't forget your significant other as well through all this. He should be the "man" in your life now, he can't ever replace your father, but help you cope and create new memories... for now and the future. keep your head up!

[BlueCrush]

Hi Becky, Sorry to hear about your mom. It must be hard when your alone and away from your family. Has it been 1 yr today? My heart goes out to you and you and your mom will be in my prayers. We'll cheer you up, sweetie! Your GenVibe family is here for you.

[Atomic]

You're NOT sounding like a whiner.The loss of your dad a year ago, and now your mom's health is more than enough reason to make you feel a little down.We all hope that our parents will always be there for us, since they typically have spent their whole existence raising us, caring for us and trying to point us in the right direction.When something like an illness occurs to our parents we often feel helpless, that we can't make it right, like they usually did for us.You are not far too sensitive, you care for your mom, talk to her and make sure to tell her that.As a parent of two almost adult children, I still worry how they are feeling, and if I get down, they usually ask me if everything is OK and is there anything they can do.Sometimes a little bit of conversation goes a long way.Is there anyone you can talk to in your circle of friends or community?Just a thought.

[rebbierae]

Thanks guys. I knew I could count on you. Hope, I don't have a fiance, just a boyfriend who is around when he can be. Luckily, I'm having lunch with him today so I'll at least get a hug. Thanks a LOT Brian. The one year anniversary was Tuesday May 1--Mom and I met to go shopping and just spend the day together, and it was nice. I guess I just dealt with Dad being sick for almost 9 years, and I'm not ready for something to be wrong with my Mom now too. Guess I'm just in pity party mood today for some reason.

[drunkenmaxx]

just think of me sitting here quietly letting an egg fart slip out. then picture the guy next to me trying to pretend he isn't choking on every breath.

[joatmon]

Your mom is getting medical attention, and you said she might need surgery, but that it isn't too serious at this point. That is good news, the state of medicine in the US these days is really amazing. There are always exceptions, but from what you have said, and me having no details, I'd say that she will be ok.It is scary though. and I know what you are going through with the dark anniversary, I have a few of those. You think you are doing ok, dealing with it, and then an uncontrollable wave hits. Sometimes it helps to try to keep busy, I hope you know that you have good frends here, and we chatters have learned a lot about each other. I'm sorry there is a whole country between us, closer and we'd crash your business and distract the hell out of you. Can you imagine twenty or so genvibers showing up and being randomly disruptive where you work? Unfortunately, that is not practical, but maybe we can do it virtually. Who is your boss, you want we should take him outside and have a little talk about cutting you loose for the rest of the day?

[AKLGT]

Quote, originally posted by rebbierae »Thanks guys. I knew I could count on you. Hope, I don't have a fiance, just a boyfriend who is around when he can be. Luckily, I'm having lunch with him today so I'll at least get a hug. Thanks a LOT Brian. The one year anniversary was Tuesday May 1--Mom and I met to go shopping and just spend the day together, and it was nice. I guess I just dealt with Dad being sick for almost 9 years, and I'm not ready for something to be wrong with my Mom now too. Guess I'm just in pity party mood today for some reason. oops! for some reason, i thought he was your fiance... oh well! LOLhowever, i still stand by my OP. don't forget those who are still around. Be happy they are there to help you through this time. hopefully your mom will be just fine and make a speedy recovery after the surgery. modern medicine has come a long way!

[ZubenElGenubi]

Hey Becky...I'm glad you posted. No one here would think you're a "whiner"; your feelings are totally understandable. I'm sorry that your mom had to go to the hospital this way, but hopefully they'll be able to address her condition sooner and for the better. Hey, anything we can do to distract you without getting you fired...just let us know.

[vibebob]

No Becky, you're not a whiner. I fullly understand where you're coming from. I give you my shoulder to lean and cry on.I'm 50 and I lost my mom to cancer when I was 24 (26 years ago). My dad remarried and lost her to Alzehimers 4 years ago. I moved my dad in with me a year after she died. He is 86 and I've seen his health start to slip in the last year. It is very tough to watch your parent(s) not be the same vibrant caregivers that you remember as a youth.Becky, if you ever feel the need to "whine" again, you go right ahead because we are your friends and family here at GenVibe.peace,bob