When it rains, it pours!

[Mavrik]

Quote, originally posted by trdvibe »ha ha ha! how could i have MISSED this too? yes, i'm dying from a rare disease that only adopted korean women in their mid-twenties contract. and because of this life threatening condition, phil and i have decided to get married in vegas because, not only am i dying in the next 6-12 months, we're having quadruplets! (removed)!I thought you already had the quadruplets? thats in, we're going to springer, I don't think I'm the father... well maybe the father of Luke but thats it.!And Salsa $70,000 a year and you sit on your (removed) all day? guess pimping is easy

[kostby]

Quote, originally posted by Mavrik » (T)hats it, we're going to springer, I don't think I'm the father... Let me know when the two of you'll be on Jerry Springer. I want TICKETS to be in the audience for THAT one!(Dropping into TV Announcer voice)"Don't miss 'Is it BAD VIBES or adjoining CEL's'? on the next Jerry Springer Show."LOL

[Mavrik]

"Hope is here today to prove that Phil is the father of her three kids. But Phil says he had not even been to alaska until 6 months ago"(pause for crowd to start booing)"but we have a surprise guest on the show that neither know is here and she claims she is the father.Carrie come on out please!"(bouncers stop Phil from beating up Carrie as crowd yells "JERRY JERRY JERRY" )"Ok everyone calm down... oh I see someone has a question?"(Jerry steps up to a old lady who says)"I came for my springer beeds" (and flashes the audience)

[AKLGT]

(removed)! ha ha ha ha! see that's what i get for being sarcastic.and phil, i thought i told you "you are most LIKELY the father of the quads. there's the possibility that Carrie could be, but I'm pretty sure it was you cause she's missing a few parts." (removed)! carrie, you know you love me and want to leave vince!

[VibeChick]

Quote, originally posted by trdvibe »(removed)! ha ha ha ha! see that's what i get for being sarcastic.and phil, i thought i told you "you are most LIKELY the father of the quads. there's the possibility that Carrie could be, but I'm pretty sure it was you cause she's missing a few parts." (removed)! carrie, you know you love me and want to leave vince! LOL! Jeez you guys! I'm pretty sure I couldn't be the father. I did have alot to drink that night...but still....Of course I love you Hope, but I have to stick with whoever has the fastest car, you know that! So Vince is staying for now

[Mavrik]

As long as the only fast thing he has is the car right? Cause I remember your last fast car man...

[VibeChick]

Right. I want a fast car, not a fast man

[AKLGT]

Quote, originally posted by Salsa! »Yes they do... but often business have a "point of no return" You can get close to it, but if you cross it, then that's it they don't accept the sick leave anymore... Hopefully Hope's is not one of those!exactly! and that's what i'm concerned about. been back 2 full days now and things are very busy! unfortunately, some of my big sales i've been working on have gone to other people. i can understand they don't want to just sit on them, but at the same time, the newbies have no clue what they're doing. so i have one of the newbies, begging to give back one of my big sales if the boss will let her! lol. she told me, i can understand why you are so busy and don't get anything done. how can you? your phone rings off the hook, your clients will only talk to you, and i have no clue or anyone else for that matter, what the hell is going on w/ it, or how to fix it! and one of my bosses has been grumbling about my absence saying, "well some of your accounts aren't being worked on properly. why didn't you just call the contact and get this going? i called and they are wanting to move." he neglects to go through and read the notes since January about us having to wait until we had the correct software solution, which we now have that was availably last month! so i'm like DUH! something about having 2 organs exploding in my body kinda prevented me from picking up the damn phone! lol but already closed one sale today, have about 3 appts tomorrow and managed to salvage and save another 3 large clients from giving us the old heave ho, kick out the door! so the big boss is happy i'm back, while the other boss is grumbling that i was gone. oh well...just gotta kick some (removed) the next few months!

[AKLGT]

Quote, originally posted by desert_dweller »Don't knock getting married in Vegas it is a great time.No Family. And the whole city is a reception. only if you're married by elvis. but i think it'd be fun really... but i know lots of people who have destination weddings. all their friends and family come to the place. most of it is already preplanned or structured. you just tell them what all you want. then you go, do your thing, and they take care of the rest! you don't have to rush around so much and worry about who the caterer is, flowers, cooking, etc! you can all go party afterwards w/o a care in the world! whoo hoo! now that's what i call a perfect wedding!when i got married.... while ago, had to have the big wedding. and what a pain in the (removed) it was! over 300 guests, feeding them all... won't EVER do that again. plus, it's so damn expensive. we did a lot of things ourselves and it was still $8500! including me renting a dress for $200 only. my best friend, just spent $1500 on hers! holy crap! guess i'm too cheap. you only wear it once, why spend so much money?

[Kari]

I'm of the "you only wear it once" philosophy too. I didn't pay $300 or $400 for either one of my prom dresses...one was $40 on a clearance rack and the other was $30. Originally $300 or $400 dresses from the season before, less of a chance that someone else would be wearing my dress, and serious cost savings.

[AKLGT]

ya i paid like $100 for mine. and i still have it. i laugh cause i can't believe i actually WORE it out in public! lol. it's got flowers and bows and all kinds of girlie crap that i just can't stand!

[Kari]

Both of mine are pretty plain...one is blue and one is silver, both are satin...one has crepe-ish stuff on it and the other doesn't, but no bows or flowers or lace. I still have the silver one, and the shoes that go with it, should I ever need a formalish dress.

[AKLGT]

oh ya. i've still got a lof of dresses from all the wedding's i've been in. kinda funny! and most all of them will stay in my closet forever. and i'll acquire another one for my friend's wedding on the 17th this month! getting worried because the dress isn't in yet.

[Kari]

I have a dress my mom wore in my aunt's wedding when I was like 9...LOL It's a beautiful color, and no lace or bows or anything, but the puffy sleeves...which I guess I could take off and make it into a sheath dress. Hmmmmmm... *looks at the sewing machine* And I think I'd start getting on the dress store or whoever you ordered that from...you should have it by now because don't they still have to alter it after it comes in?

[AKLGT]

Quote, originally posted by Kari »And I think I'd start getting on the dress store or whoever you ordered that from...you should have it by now because don't they still have to alter it after it comes in?i called them yesterday. should be in by the time i get back. gotta go in for the fitting and they will alter it. but yes, it's getting close. but she only decided what to do right before my first surgery mid july. so i didn't even order the dress til the end of july.

[AKLGT]

Quote, originally posted by Salsa! »It's all about perspective, when I got married, we had about 115 guests and it cost us around 15,000$ (including honeymoon trip). We got in cash around 8000$ in gifts...so basically the wedding cost us about 7,000$We had a blast, everyone had a great time and I have GOOD memories of the wedding day (even if it rained like hell). It was a success and if I had to go back in time to change something, I would decline the offer....but that's cdn right? and how long did you plan the wedding? short engagement or long? usually long engagements tend to cost more but then you can save up more too. and if that INCLUDES your honeymoon, really that's not bad at all! i was reading that the average wedding in the US costs $22,000!!! ouch. that's what? about $30,000 cdn there abouts? so if yours, including the honeymoon and all, was around $15,000 cdn (before your monetary gifts) that's like $11,000 US, and after your gifts that's about $5000 US. pretty damn good for a wedding! i should quit my job and go into the wedding business! the mark up on those dresses and ANYTHING to do w/ a wedding.... sheesh!

[Sputnik]

That sounds like a great wedding. My boyfriend and I have no plans on ever getting married - I mean we've lived together 5 years now and we'd rather spend our money on other things, than food, dresses, tuxes etc etc. My brother and his fiancee are getting married in two days and its got all the wedding trimmings, so to speak... but I think he saved up for quite a while to pay for it. If I were to get married I think it would be cool to do it in Vegas then come back to Canada and have a party with my friends and family to celebrate!

[AKLGT]

Quote, originally posted by Sputnik »That sounds like a great wedding. My boyfriend and I have no plans on ever getting married - I mean we've lived together 5 years now and we'd rather spend our money on other things, than food, dresses, tuxes etc etc. My brother and his fiancee are getting married in two days and its got all the wedding trimmings, so to speak... but I think he saved up for quite a while to pay for it. If I were to get married I think it would be cool to do it in Vegas then come back to Canada and have a party with my friends and family to celebrate!you don't have to spend a million to have a great wedding. i thought you did when i got married, but it's all for show most of it. as long as you and him are there, well... that's all that really matters right? and i was reading some interesting laws about ontario, and one of them is a marriage law (forget the actual term) that allows a couple who are members of some church (not sure which one sorry) that if they announce their intentions to marry 3 sundays in a row, they are legally married! now that's a CHEAP way to go! and everyone will already be there so you can save on invitations too! lolbut do they have common law marriages like they do here? and don't you get any benefits for being married, like tax cuts or insurance cuts? after 5 yrs of living w/ someone, i'd want to make sure they can't just one day walk out the door w/o any complications. i was only married for 6 mos (together) and even that made it easy for him to just walk out the door!

[AKLGT]

that's cool! bet you had a great time too!and truthfully, if i were to get married in vegas, it'd HAVE to be by an elvis. lol.... to complete the sick humor i've been told (over and over) that i have. in fact, i think one of my clients was telling me that yesterday! lol

[Sputnik]

Quote, originally posted by trdvibe »and i was reading some interesting laws about ontario, and one of them is a marriage law (forget the actual term) that allows a couple who are members of some church (not sure which one sorry) that if they announce their intentions to marry 3 sundays in a row, they are legally married! now that's a CHEAP way to go! and everyone will already be there so you can save on invitations too! lolNever heard of that one... but I don't attend any church so I guess I wouldn't be an expert on that anyway. Quote, originally posted by trdvibe »but do they have common law marriages like they do here? and don't you get any benefits for being married, like tax cuts or insurance cuts? after 5 yrs of living w/ someone, i'd want to make sure they can't just one day walk out the door w/o any complications. i was only married for 6 mos (together) and even that made it easy for him to just walk out the door! You are common law after 1 year of living together and it used to be they had no "benefits" and whatnot, but not any longer... its pretty much just like you were married if you were to split up. Edit: It doesn't really matter to me about common law or not - I wouldn't take him for half of what he has anyway. The deal we have is, whats mine is mine, whats his is his, and whats joint is split. Same way we have our bank accounts set up. I have mine, he has his, and we have a joint one for common expenses.

[Sputnik]

Google is a great thing. from canadianlawsite.com regarding ontario and common law marriages. Seems for tax purposes its 1 year of living together and for support its 3 years:Quote, originally posted by canadianlawsite.com »There are substantial differences should the relationship end upon the death of one partner or one partner leaves the relationship:The Family Law Act of Ontario currently treats common-law relationships as trial marriages(Section 29) unless there are children. You can live together for up to three years without having to worry about court ordered support obligations should you separate during that period. The Family Law Act of Ontario, after a common-law relationship has passed the three year mark, treats both parties as if they were married when determining support obligations. Support is based upon the need of one party and ability to pay by the other. Should two people living common-law have a child together, the Family Law Act of Ontario states that support obligations, should the couple separate, take effect immediately in spite of the length of the relationship. There is no sharing of property when a common-law relationship ends except jointly owned property. Should one of the common-law partners die, unless there is a will, there is no right to claim against the deceased partner's estate. However, you can share in your deceased partner's Canada Pension Plan if you have lived together for at least one year.

[Sputnik]

Quote, originally posted by Salsa! »To each its own, but we believe that when you decide to live together and marry, you become ONE being, not 2 individuals.... I believe when you are married, you are still two individuals making one life together, but you are still your own person. If you become "one being" then you're really screwed should something go wrong in the marriage. How will you get yourself back? I don't know if that makes any sense... does anyone understand what I'm talking about? I think this happens to a lot of women. They believe that they are "one being" but then their husband leaves them and they don't know what to do.

[Sputnik]

I make much less than my boyfriend does - our finances are split that way... we total what our gross income is and then split it based on what percentage of the total we each have... I think we've got a 40/60 split.

[AKLGT]

very interesting conversation here. i will add that i always believe also, that when you marry, you are ONE unit. i believe you should put your money together. what if something happens and the other isn't working, or you have a stay at home mom? is that any less important of a job at home than just making money? you can always make more money but you can't always find that special person.however, i do believe it's important to have some extra little money for yourselves that you can spend or save as you wish w/o having to consult the other. but i'm talking like small items or an allowance if you will. plus, i'd want to buy a house so would want most of the extra money going to savings for a down payment.

[cibomatto]

WHOA,... I just read the first para and scanned through the rest. My wife JUSt had her appendix removed... Man, the week after the surgery was miserable for her.She is getting lots better now. How are you feeling now? I wish I was in Alaska. I would take care of your Vibe for you.

[AKLGT]

oh i'm feeling much much better. had a good heart to heart w/ the boss yesterday before i left. so things are shaping up at work too. but i'm in Canada now. so gonna get some zzzz's since it's not much fun "trying" to sleep on the plane all night and day.