The engagement

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Sat Mar 20, 2004 9:41 am

Well, as some of you may have seen on other posts, I plan on proposing to my girlfriend of 7 years. I have taken the first 2 steps. I got the ring a few weeks ago and tonight I asked her parents. Now for the big question. But how do I want to ask. Can anyone offer up some ideas? I have a few of my own but I want to hear some other views. By the way, any huge public display is out of the question, that's cheesy.

Stang2Vibe · Post by **Stang2Vibe** » Sat Mar 20, 2004 10:36 am

Well, about 2 weeks ago, my sister got engaged. Her fiance took her to Phipps Conservatory in Oakland (next to Pitt's campus in case you aren't familiar with where it is) and proposed there. He called ahead of time and they gladly reserved him one of the big rooms that is full of flowers for a half hour, and I think they reserved it at no charge. The people at the Conservatory even gave them a plant to keep. He was smart about it and remembered to bring a camera so they could take pictures. They went on a weekday afternoon when the place isn't very busy anyway so it was a nice private thing where just the two of them were in the room he reserved. My sister loved it. Hard to give advice to you not knowing much about what your g/f might like, you'd have to be the best judge of that.I know my boss proposed to his second wife on the steps of the Lincoln Memorial in D.C. That would definately be a more public thing, though.

Mavrik · Post by **Mavrik** » Sun Mar 21, 2004 12:37 am

Well you can do it how my friend proposed to his girlfriend.It was yesterday morning (saturday) he woke her up at like 7:30am and said he was going to make her breakfast. Well she of course complained... "no I don't want breakfast, I want to sleep..." and he was like "no you gotta work at 10am so come on, I'll make you something to eat, I want to ok?"He gets her out of bed and she's still complaining... (poor guy) and starts making her breakfast. Part way through scrambling the eggs, he says "Oh... hunny can you watch these? I gotta check the load of clothes in the dryer."Well she complains some more lol saying that she didn't want breakfast... is still complaining when he comes up behind her and gets down on one knee with the ring. Well she shut up and nearly fainted. I had to admire the guy though, she showed him exactly what life forever after would be like with him and he still wanted it.I spoke to her later, she was still all giddy and everything and felt really bad she acted like a ***** but I thought it was funny.

Sputnik · Post by **Sputnik** » Sun Mar 21, 2004 1:06 am

Wow breakfast and laundry - of course she said yes to that!

Mavrik · Post by **Mavrik** » Sun Mar 21, 2004 1:34 am

Yeah she said yes! heheSo see there poopy pants? present it in a way she can't refuse.

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Sun Mar 21, 2004 3:03 am

I really don't think refusing is a problem. Here's an idea that I had. We met in high school, we met while doing a musical (yes I was in a few musicals in high school) anyway, I was one of the lead dancers in this ballroom scene and the choreographer (sp?) was setting partners So ther I was standing up on stage and she got paired with me, up until then I had no clue who she was but the second I layed eyes on her, I was in love. So she came up and gave me a big hug. On stage left is where we originally met. Now I am still in contact with the lady who ran the musicals and she is still the Chorus and Show Choir teacher (yes I was in chorus and show choir, let it go LOL) So I was going to call her and see if I would be able to get Kim (my girlfriend) down there and since I also know the lighting guy at the school, I could get him to set up the lighting so one single spotlight would be shining on that one part of the stage. I think it would probably be better to blindfold her and take her there. But that's what I was thinking, I want to propose to her at the exact same spot where we first met. Whatcha think??

AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Sun Mar 21, 2004 3:30 am

well, my guy friends compete w/ one another on most creative proposals.1. ben has his pilots license and took his gf for a flight seeing tour over mt susitna, sleeping lady. while they were flying over the mt and she was commenting on how beautiful it was, he proposed. of course she couldnt say no for fear he was crash into the mt! lol. j/k2. 2 summers ago, matt and my friend andrea, had been dating for 2 yrs. he wanted to do something special. they often liked to eat chinese food and so he spent about 5 months learning how to make fortune cookies. he went to see her for graduation and her birthday (happened to be about the same time) and one afternoon, he gets his chinese take out. bakes the ring inside the cookie and sets it on her plate. they talk and talk and he's extremely nervous, keeps looking at the cookie. finally they finish and he says, lets read fortunes! and she says ok... he opens his first and it says, "a new wonderful life awaits you!" andrea says, ok...? and then opens hers to find the ring. at that point he got down on one knee and proposed. she said yes, obviously.3. my friend deanna and her fiance, justin, met down at our yocal bar from some mutual aquaintances about a year ago over new years. so he finally got her a ring and they decided to tt the dj and owner (whom he knows). they fix up a fake raffle for midnight. of course she wins and so the dj yells at justin to go get her the box for the mystery prize. she's up on stage waiting. his buddy mitch wrapped a big box w/ duct tape (this is alaska) and then a small box inside and then the ring box inside that. when she finally gets to the ring box, justin gets down on one knee and proposes. it's not like she was going to say NO, lol. she'd been wanting one for a few months and they'd talked about it.4. then my best friend shana became engaged after getting into an altercation w/ randy's ex over his little girl. she told her she had nothing to do with her daughter and mind her own business, it was between her and randy. so she blurted, "well, actually it does. we're getting married and I will be part of her life whether you like it or not!" they'd talked about it already but nothing was official. so she gets back in the car, randy was sitting in there during this conversation, and says what's that all about seeing them argue. shana tells him, oh, when charity asks, we're engaged. so, he's like cool! it's official and i didn't have to ask! glad that was easy! lol 5. my ex and i had discussed marriage for about 1 wk. i wanted to show him that i was finished running away since we'd dated several times previously and he'd mention that word, i'd freak and take off. so we went to see "run away bride." he laughed and said it was me on screen! i bought some baby shoes that looked like my running shoes and gave them to him while we were on a romantic getaway. i didn't actually propose, but afterwards, he got down on one knee.my main suggestion: don't propose at a restaurant. way overdone and lame. do something that signifies your relationship or was a special moment.... go get her! and after 7 yrs, she WILL say yes!

Mavrik · Post by **Mavrik** » Sun Mar 21, 2004 3:34 am

You have a very good idea there, get her on the stage, where you both first met would be so romantic.

AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Sun Mar 21, 2004 3:35 am

sorry started writing my long post before i saw yours. that sounds great. but i would suggest giving her a lame reason why you need to go there. if you're friends with the lighting guy, make up a reson why you need to stop over there. then you go in and he says he needs help... you both get up on stage and look around a nice beautiful set or something romantic, then he points the spotlight at your place. you can have her come over there with you and then get down on one knee. maybe if you remember your dance, someone can play your music so you can dance your first song or whatever. chicks dig stuff like that! but sounds great!

russ257 · Post by **russ257** » Sun Mar 21, 2004 3:50 am

do it at a Penguins at their current rate you could prolly rent out the entire arena for like 1000 bucks

DoughBoy · Post by **DoughBoy** » Sun Mar 21, 2004 7:50 am

Quote, originally posted by trdvibe Â»... you both get up on stage and look around a nice beautiful set or something romantic, then he points the spotlight at your place. that sounds absolutely fantastic...do that! i'm not sure if a fairy tale scene would be far too cheesy, but i don't know you all that well either. perhaps that would be appropriate, i don't know.good luck!

kostby · Post by **kostby** » Sun Mar 21, 2004 10:30 am

Seven years! Wow! It MUST be love!The spot where you first met in the theatre idea sounds FANTASTIC, if you can pull it off.I'm sure my g/f (now wife of almost 20 years) sure wouldn't have waited 7 years for me! We knew each other about 3 years from attending monthly teachers' union meetings, but only dated about 3 months.Our proposal wasn't planned or romantic. I was cooking dinner for her in my townhouse, and I mentioned something pretty general about getting married some day. She replied 'I haven't been asked yet!' So I asked!She said 'I need to think about it.'Long pause. Very long, very silent pause. About 30 seconds later, she said 'Yes!'She always did have a flair for the dramatic! And still does.(She and I are both active in community theatre now.)

AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Tue Mar 23, 2004 1:26 am

ok, so when are you planning to ask???

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Tue Mar 23, 2004 1:53 am

Well, I have to talk to the chorus teacher at the school and see if it would be possible, I'll probably call her tomorrow.

Mavrik · Post by **Mavrik** » Tue Mar 23, 2004 2:00 am

Just don't wait another 7 years bro.

Reynoma · Post by **Reynoma** » Tue Mar 23, 2004 2:22 am

When I proposed, I spliced my "popping the question" into the middle of our favorite movie (She's Having a Baby). I invited her over, suggested watching a video. We watched for about 15 minutes, when suddenly I'm on the screen, making the proposal. It was pretty neat.

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Tue Mar 23, 2004 2:27 pm

Quote, originally posted by Mavrik Â»Just don't wait another 7 years bro.Didn't plan on it.LOL

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Mon Mar 29, 2004 11:43 pm

It's official! I am engaged!

Triton · Post by **Triton** » Mon Mar 29, 2004 11:54 pm

Congratulations!

Vibe Rater · Post by **Vibe Rater** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 12:22 am

Quote, originally posted by Mr. Poopypants Â»It's official! I am engaged!Ummm....How did you end up doing it?

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 12:26 am

Thank you!!! and I did it the way I described earlier in the post.

Mavrik · Post by **Mavrik** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 12:30 am

Sweet, congrats man!

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 12:32 am

I will post this as an all encompassing THANK YOU!!

AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 1:15 am

CONGRATULATIONS!you have to tell us (who want to know) details on the engagement, how you managed to get her there, etc.

Mavrik · Post by **Mavrik** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 1:16 am

Yes do tell we are nosy folk here.

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 1:59 am

I told her that I ran into the teacher that I knew and she said we should stop up and take a look at the set for the musical, I helped build the sets too. So we went up to the school and stood the exact spot, the lights dimmed a little bit, Thanks to the lighting guy, and a small light kinda lit up that part of the stage where we were and I proposed. And of course she said "yes" By the way, the ring is a solitaire, round cut, LEO diamond (3/4 carat) on a 24ct gold ring, the diamond is set in platinum.

AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 2:22 am

fantastic! glad it worked so well for you!

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 2:25 am

Mavrik · Post by **Mavrik** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 2:28 am

So when is the wedding? 7 years from now?

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 2:45 am

No we decided on May 2006. She said she will need 2 years to plan this wedding, and with the size of our families, I agree.

Stang2Vibe · Post by **Stang2Vibe** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 5:46 am

I just caught this----congrats, Poopy!!! I'm glad that things went so well for you!Now I just have to find some poor soul who will agree to accept me as her life partner . Believe it or not, I absolutely hate being single.

VibeChick · Post by **VibeChick** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 6:18 am

Quote, originally posted by Stang2Vibe Â»I just caught this----congrats, Poopy!!! I'm glad that things went so well for you!Now I just have to find some poor soul who will agree to accept me as her life partner . Believe it or not, I absolutely hate being single. I thought you had a girlfriend?

Mavrik · Post by **Mavrik** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 6:23 am

I never liked being single either. But I found when you stop looking, one always comes along.

VibeChick · Post by **VibeChick** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 6:26 am

Quote, originally posted by Mavrik Â»I never liked being single either. But I found when you stop looking, one always comes along. Ain't that the truth. Must be time to revive the single or not thread then! I don't remember you posting in there, Stang.

AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 7:48 am

ya, i thought you had a serious girlfriend! lol.... now aren't you glad we all keep tabs on each other's personal lives??? j/k. none of our business unless you'd like to share.... please???

Psychobroker · Post by **Psychobroker** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 7:50 am

Congrats Poopy!!!

joatmon · Post by **joatmon** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 8:27 am

congratulations.I hope you take it seriously. You are planning to make a lifelong commitment, to swear before all you hold dear that you will do whatever it takes to stay with this woman. Not until the infatuation ends, not until you or she finds someone betterr, not until it becomes inconvenient, and not until you "fall out of love' You are planning to commit for the rest of your lives. till death do you part. If you want that to happen, then you need to be prepared to make a whole bunch of sacrifices and compromises, to do whatever it takes to keep the marriage alive and working. If you don't think that you can follow through for the rest of your life with this, then don't do it.Now if you two go into with with your eyes open, seeing each other for who you really are and not who you want the other one to be, knowing that there will be difficult times and committed with every fiber of your beings to do whatever it takes to make it together, and never conceding that breakup is a possibility, then you will find that the sacrifices, compromises and concessions seem trivial and well worth the rewards,Hope you have scores of happy anniversaries

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AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 9:10 am

well, after 7 years of her staying with you, i hope you two are happy for the rest of your lives. divorce sucks and i would advice you to do anything to possibly can to avoid it!!! it's extremely painful and expensive! but again, after 7 years, i'm sure you know each other pretty damn well! so, congrats once again!!!

kostby · Post by **kostby** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 1:36 pm

Congrats! May God bless both of you!It won't seem like it, but getting engaged and planning the wedding will be the easy part! From the purely male perspective, try not to stress out over wedding 'details' that are critically important to her, but probably don't mean diddly-squat to you, AND VICE VERSA!Don't get so caught up planning the 'perfect' wedding, that you lose sight of the goal: A joyous celebration with your friends and families that marks the beginning of your lives together.(We'll be married 20 years on 6/9/2004!)

AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 3:50 pm

Quote, originally posted by joatmon Â»Hope you have scores of happy anniversaries ha ha ha! i love that sound clip from princess bride! i used to have that movie almost memorized in college!!! thanks, joat!

AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 4:00 pm

Quote, originally posted by VibeChick Â»Ain't that the truth. Must be time to revive the single or not thread then! I don't remember you posting in there, Stang.as you requested!

Stang2Vibe · Post by **Stang2Vibe** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 5:20 pm

Yes, key word there is "had". It would have been 4 years together next month. We still talk almost daily, but unless she decides to really change some of her new-found ways and behave more like an adult than a senseless child, there will be no getting back together. Funny, though, when she gets real drunk (which has become too frequent lately) she calls me up around 3-4 am and tells me things like I better have an engagement ring for her by the summer and that kind of stuff. Then she sobers up and I'm an a-hole again. She's always been painfully honest when drunk, so I can't help but wonder if this is some kind of head game she's playing with me. I can't take that kind of crap; I'm an extremely straight-shooting guy. Well enough of my depressing story, this is supposed to be a happy thread! Any of you ladies (no doubt with perspective and insight that I won't get from fellow males) who would like to chat on the site IM about this, I can be quite talkative. And no, I won't hit on you (except maybe jokingly).

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 10:27 pm

Quote, originally posted by joatmon Â»congratulations.I hope you take it seriously. You are planning to make a lifelong commitment, to swear before all you hold dear that you will do whatever it takes to stay with this woman. Not until the infatuation ends, not until you or she finds someone betterr, not until it becomes inconvenient, and not until you "fall out of love' You are planning to commit for the rest of your lives. till death do you part. If you want that to happen, then you need to be prepared to make a whole bunch of sacrifices and compromises, to do whatever it takes to keep the marriage alive and working. If you don't think that you can follow through for the rest of your life with this, then don't do it.Now if you two go into with with your eyes open, seeing each other for who you really are and not who you want the other one to be, knowing that there will be difficult times and committed with every fiber of your beings to do whatever it takes to make it together, and never conceding that breakup is a possibility, then you will find that the sacrifices, compromises and concessions seem trivial and well worth the rewards,Hope you have scores of happy anniversaries Thanks!! But I've been with her for 7 years, I know she is the one.

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Tue Mar 30, 2004 10:30 pm

Again, thank you to everyone!

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Thu Apr 01, 2004 10:44 pm

The date has been set. 5/27/06 Yes, 2 years. We will have almost 500 people there, we need 2 years to plan.

lumpcus · Post by **lumpcus** » Thu Apr 01, 2004 11:43 pm

Congrats Poopy, my gf and i just celebrated our 4 year anniversary. 3-30 is our anniversary date.

Mr. Poopypants · Post by **Mr. Poopypants** » Thu Apr 01, 2004 11:49 pm

Quote, originally posted by lumpcus Â»Congrats Poopy, my gf and i just celebrated our 4 year anniversary. 3-30 is our anniversary date.Thank you and congrats to you as well!

VibeChick · Post by **VibeChick** » Fri Apr 02, 2004 12:05 am

Quote, originally posted by Mr. Poopypants Â»The date has been set. 5/27/06 Yes, 2 years. We will have almost 500 people there, we need 2 years to plan.500 people!!! wow, I don't even know 500 people! You guys must be important....or really popular!

AKLGT · Post by **AKLGT** » Fri Apr 02, 2004 12:15 am

well, after 7 years together and moving w/ the military, i'd think you'd prob know quite a few people. we had 350 at our wedding and that was when i was only 22. most were my friends and family. had 20 out of state relatives come up for it too, all staying at my house! we were in sleeping bags and campers in the front yard!!! lol

VibeChick · Post by **VibeChick** » Fri Apr 02, 2004 12:20 am

wow, if I ever get married, maybe I'll elope!