lost the one thing i wanted for the rest of my life

[joholste]

Well today not only did i wreck my car but my fiance broke off our engagement, and said that she didn't have anymore feelings for me. never knew i could feel this low. I never expected to lose the one thing i have truly loved head over heels. I think I'm just going to wait, because i know in my heart she'll find her way back to me.

[joatmon]

man that sucks big time. I can relate, and can say that time heals to some extent. doesn't help right now though. I know the fiance loss is so much more critically important, but distract yourself and tell us about the wreck

[joholste]

ummmwell being the valedictorian of the college of dumassity, i decided that i need to go to the local walmart, after having taken a percocet and a tylonel 3 about 30 minutes before and when trying to back up turn at the same time i hit a lightpole. and when i thought i was stuck instead of stopping and seeing what was wrong i just gave it more gas, ending up rippind my front bumper completely off, and of course that fluid bottle onthe right front yah that broke off too. and i'm the one supposed to tell my soldiers not to drive under then influence, jee i'm a shining example for them to follow

[joatmon]

a percocet and a tylenol 3? man, you are not having a good day, or month. I remember you blew out your knee a while back, the meds for that or some new injury?

[BOZACK]

I feel your pain, man. After six years of maraige my wife dropped that bomb on me from way out of the blue. Now divorced, I know I am much better off without her. You'll get over it in time. You might not recover from cracking up the car though.

[joholste]

Quote, originally posted by joatmon »a percocet and a tylenol 3? man, you are not having a good day, or month. I remember you blew out your knee a while back, the meds for that or some new injury?no i finally got surgery for my knee, no i had my wisdom teeth pulled on monday and i have since developed dry socket. I have this knack for getting injured, my dad says that it's because i'm related to him. my mom just thinks i have the hots for a nurse.

[Mavrik]

Well at least at the end of this day, your still alright. wrecked car... fiance... sure it all hurts now but it can be replaced. At least she told you now and not later.

[Mavrik]

Quote, originally posted by joholste »no i finally got surgery for my knee, no i had my wisdom teeth pulled on monday and i have since developed dry socket. I have this knack for getting injured, my dad says that it's because i'm related to him. my mom just thinks i have the hots for a nurse. well you are a free man now.

[AKLGT]

Quote, originally posted by Mavrik »Well at least at the end of this day, your still alright. wrecked car... fiance... sure it all hurts now but it can be replaced. At least she told you now and not later. man, i'm really sorry to hear about all this craziness in your life. car, fiance, surgery.... but i'll agree with mav that it is MUCH better to find out now than after you're married. it'll take some time to heal (it took me almost 4 years!) but the right person will come along and it won't be just a "feeling" they have for you but real love unconditional love. your vibe can be repaired back to health just fine, so don't get too bummed about that too. take care of yourself first and foremost. we all do stupid things and make mistakes (i know from experience as only a few months ago lost my job over something really dumb that i did). and as many people know, when i was 21, i married my hs sweetheart, thought everything would be wonderful and 6 months later, we're filing for a divorce for various reasons. this was someone i met in 11th grade and knew i would marry him the first time i met him. i did and boy would i have preferred to know before the wedding and high expectations than after. i mourned over that relationship for 2 years, hoping that he would come back. it never happened. instead, i grew stronger and became more independant without him, then when i wasn't even looking, someone even better and more wonderful came along. it's hard to see this now when you're in the midst of the storm. take some time off and allow yourself to heal and go through the grieving process. keep your head up because maybe just around the corner, like what i found, someone better will be there for you.

[Charlievibe]

Quote, originally posted by joholste »...said that she didn't have anymore feelings for me.I really don't like sharing personal details about past relationships, but for you, I will. I don't want you to think that you had anything to do with how she feels, or doesn't feel. Sometimes, it just happens.My HS boyfriend told me he didn't even like me anymore and just dumped me. Three months later he came crawling back and I walked on past. I didn't need that kind of drama in my life.As for the female losing the feelings - this happened to me with the guy I dated for over four years. One morning I woke up and looked at him and knew I didn't love him anymore. It wasn't anything that he had done, or not done, the feelings just weren't there. I told him how I was feeling and we tried like crazy to rekindle those feelings. But it didn't work and after four more months of agony for both of us, we decided to let it go. I felt very bad and even guilty, but at least I was honest with him. To this day (six years later), I still do not understand what happened or where the feelings I had for him went. We have both moved on with our lives and we are all the better for it. Had we stayed together, it would have only gotten worse and we would have eventually ended up hating each other.You are a great person and a good-looking guy, you will meet the love of your life and like Hope said, you will have real, unconditional love. The feelings don't just go away with that kind of love. I mean, look at Phil and Hope - they were together over a huge distance and grew to love each other more than they had in the beginning. You will do well for yourself. And, if you want to look at it in a sadistic kind of female way - you know that as great as you are, that she will look back and regret leaving you. But by then, you will have moved on to "the one."I hope this helps some. I feel very bad for you, it is a tough spot to be in. But just remember, it was nothing you did or didn't do. It was all 100% her.

[4X4CHICHI]

lot of fish brah

[Mr. Poopypants]

Sorry to hear about the poo hitting the fan. Like everyone said, things will get better in time. Take it from a person who has not luck at all. Occasionally the sun shines on a dogs (removed). It may not happen often but the dog gets a nice warm feeling.

[joholste]

well i guess today i had a good thing happen when i woke up my reenlistment bonus had dropped in so i can fix my car. ... BTW charlievibe, thanks for saying i'm good looking

[joatmon]

Quote, originally posted by Mr. Poopypants » Take it from a person who has not luck at all. Didn't you jsut get married last month, and now you are saying you have not had luck at all? bummer

[MACMANIAC]

Let me just say I am sorry that this happened to you. But, like was already said, it could have been worse. My best friend married a girl a few years ago, even adopted her son, thought it was true love. Six months later she tells him "My ex-boyfriend is back in town from the marines. I am gonna go see him ALONE". Two days later she tells him she wants a divorce, she neve REALLY loved him, and she just wanted a father for her kid. Her entire family sided with my buddy, they even went to court on his behalf so she was not able to shaft him in the divorce. He was crushed. Two years later he met a gal at work. They fell in love and have been extremely happy for over 9 years. She is a GREAT gal, and he is extremely happy.So you see, you'll get through this. If it was meant to be she will come back. If so, make her WORK for it a while. After all she broke it off not you. My wife made me work HARD to win her back after we broke up in college. 13 years, two kids, two carpayments, and a 4 bedroom 4 bath mortgage in the suburbs later we are still together. It may take a while to make it through, but hell man, you are a soldier! You will just adapt and overcome!

[micheles_bad_vibe]

x

[Mr. Poopypants]

Quote, originally posted by joatmon »Didn't you jsut get married last month, and now you are saying you have not had luck at all? bummerYes and that was the brief glimpse of sunshine on the dogs (removed).

[ToolGuy]

Sorry to hear this bro... What does not kill you makes you stronger if you can believe that.

[drunkengirlfriend]

Quote, originally posted by MACMANIAC »Two days later she tells him she wants a divorce, she neve REALLY loved him, and she just wanted a father for her kid. Her entire family sided with my buddy, they even went to court on his behalf so she was not able to shaft him in the divorce. He was crushed. Two years later he met a gal at work. They fell in love and have been extremely happy for over 9 years. She is a GREAT gal, and he is extremely happy. To reiterate what everyone else said. You'll make it through just focus on what you've got not what you had. As Mac proved girls can do some pretty crappy things, but you will be happy. It doesn't always take another person to fullfill your life, but it could happen and it could be amazing. Best of luck I would tell you that your an attractive guy but my boyfriend reads my posts sometimes so I won't

[mcgusto82]

well, sorry for your loss. were you guys having trouble before? did this happened out of nowhere. cause let me tell you. women unlike men, don't just up and go. something must've been on her mind and finally decided it was enough. hate to say it, but maybe you are better off. only time will tell.until then just try to find those close to you and let them help you forget her. the vibe is nothing compared to your emotional state.

[joholste]

ha ha haalright i'll take your word for itright now i got a loner and my car should be done on monday yippie yay. and i get my xbox live back on tuesday whoo hoo. but anyways thanks for the support.

[AKLGT]

Quote, originally posted by drunkengirlfriend »To reiterate what everyone else said. You'll make it through just focus on what you've got not what you had. As Mac proved girls can do some pretty crappy things, but you will be happy. It doesn't always take another person to fullfill your life, but it could happen and it could be amazing. Best of luck I would tell you that your an attractive guy but my boyfriend reads my posts sometimes so I won't (removed)! well, so does my husband. at least you got some money to fix the car and maybe use it for a little vacation?

[mcgusto82]

maniac makes a good point. don't ever adopt a kid that isn't yours.he/she has a mother. all you need to do is make sure he/she eats.

[drunkenmaxx]

Quote, originally posted by drunkengirlfriend »I would tell you that your an attractive guy but my boyfriend reads my posts sometimes so I won't gee, like i care!life can suck sometimes man, but things will get better, they always do! everything works out in the end, hell, this could be a blessing to you in the future! keep your head up.

[fortiffany]

I am so sorry ...coming from a girl...there has to be a reason. If I were you I would try to talk and find out why. I would never say yes to something like that if I had a any idea in my little head that I didn't want to, but that's just me.