Another thing for me to complain about....

[fortiffany]

So I know you all must be sick of me asking questions about my dating life, but here goes again. So I am with this really nice awesome guy right. About 3 months now. We go bowling last night with a bunch of my friends. I may have a a few to many drinks he says he is going home has to work early in the morning. Don't ask how I found out but he ends up at another bar. Now this is after I get a text from him saying that he was at home. So I texted him till 2-3 in the morning and just got another one now asking if I will ever talk to him again? Anyones thoughts?

[JustinVGT]

Well, you didn't get much into details, but from what I'm guessing is he either wanted to meet up with some other girl at the other bar or just hang out with his buddies there. If things were good between you two, I don't see why he would lie and not bring you to the other bar. I'd think since he lied to leave early, he must be hiding something. Or, maybe he really was on his way home and his buddy called him up asking to meet for drinks at some bar. What was his excuse? HAHA the drama of dating.

[drunkenmaxx]

oh my, i don't even have time to discuss the possiblities.

[Charlievibe]

Quote, originally posted by fortiffany »So I am with this really nice awesome guy right. About 3 months now. I thought you all broke up about a month ago or is this a different guy or the same guy and I just misunderstood?Quote, originally posted by fortiffany »Don't ask how I found out but he ends up at another bar. Sorry, but I do think this is a very important part of the story. If you were following him, or had friends following him, there are other issues that go WAY beyond the fact that he told you one thing and you learn something else.If on the other hand you learned that he was at the bar from a girl/guy there who saw him and told you, that is a different story. My ex-bf played strip poker with some girls while we were dating (only one of the many reasons he is the ex-bf). He was busted when it turned out one of the girls there knew me and told me - and no, she isn't my friend any longer. Come on, you don't play strip poker with a friend's bf - especially when she didn't know in the first place.Quote, originally posted by fortiffany »Now this is after I get a text from him saying that he was at home. So I texted him till 2-3 in the morning and just got another one now asking if I will ever talk to him again? Anyones thoughts?Was he responding to your text messages until 2-3am or were you just sending them waiting for a response? EDIT: You know, after reading Silvers' and Vibe's responses, I think they both have excellent points and I am startled that it didn't occur to me. If he is asking will you talk to him again, there is something going on there that you need to take a close look at. If this is the same guy as the "I want to do a CD for our three month anniversary," MOVE ON!!! He isn't who or what you think he is.I hope I didn't hurt your feelings, I am just this bluntly honest about everything.

[VibeGriff]

I do not know the entire history of this relationship, but if this is not the first time he lied, forget about it. That last little bit is kinda disturbing too, about will you ever talk to me again. Either he is insecure in the quality of you all's relationship or he was doing something that is very naughty.

[mcgusto82]

if you don't love him, hey move on. if you do, then try to listen to his excuse. he might have a good one.ahhhhh being single... ahhhh

[fortiffany]

I knew him for a while then starting dating him after the last guy. It's not the cd guy. Now I know what you are all thinking rebound thing but it's not. I thought about this really hard before I went into it. I found out that he was there becuase I was with a friend we were driving home the long way and happen to see his car at the other bar. He was responding to all the text messages telling me that we should talk tomorrow (being today) like he thought I was going to feel any different about this later? You did not hurt my feelings I am a tough cookie!!! I just think that all boys are dumb at this moment! OH did I happen to mention in there that my ex-boyfriend was at the same bar with again I have now ran-into him three times in the past two weeks now when I was with my new boyfriend. This sucks I should just move to another state...and bring my tv for sure!!!!

[scherry2]

lets see I've been married for 20 years, I should be an expert on this.... you happy with yourself? if so, screw him. live your life and do what you want to do to make yourself happy. have you ever heard the song: everybodys free (to wear sunscreen)?http://www.mrcranky.com/movies/pushingtin/11.html

[joatmon]

I'm too old, but dump the SOB and hook up with one of these excellent genviber guys.

[Charlievibe]

Now I know more of the details, I think that he is a dumb (removed) and you should move on. Asking you if you would still talk to him after you see him there is like my ex-bf asking me if I was upset with him for playing strip poker with a bunch of girls.I do think your TV is attracting the wrong sort of guy. I wouldn't move states, I'd just find for your own, as joat suggested, a nice genvibe guy who has his head on correctly. I'll agree with you that in general boys are dumb; however, the guys out here are good guys. I mean look at Kari and Hope - they have found awesome guys.

[drunkenmaxx]

drunkengirlfriend is the luckiest of them all!

[ajf3ajf3]

Hey - don't know about the guy - other than that people tend to be on their _best_ behavior in the early stages of a relationship. On to the point though - nice ride! If I were without envy, I'd envy your vibe

[fortiffany]

Nice Vibe!!! Another Envy we are so hard to come by!!!

[Mavrik]

I'm going to have to agree with a few of the people here... If your tired, heading home early from the bar to get some sleep before working in the morning... what the heck are you doing in another bar? If he said he was going home, he should have gone home. Why did he go to another bar after lying to you? Curb him and find another I say, even if he is a great bowler.

[fortiffany]

I like how you think!!!!! My thoughts exactly!!!!

[Mavrik]

If I was tired/needed to go to work the next morning and left somewhere early because of that... then I should be going to bed and would not be talked into going to another bar. You found him out and early to which is better then later. I mean, if he was headed to bed and a buddy called him up and invited him to a bar. You expected him home and if he thought about it, he could have called you and invited you to the bar with him had he changed his mind. But guys don't think all the time, I know a lot probably gets past me but I am smarter then that to know when I say I'm headed home, thats where you'll find me have you heard back from him? or are his buddies teasing him about getting a girl who tracks his every move? If a guy hates being tracked around, its probably because he knows its ruining his fun. Unless it is some overbearing girl calling every 5 mins "Were are you?" which I doubt you are

[fortiffany]

Well I talked to him in person last night. That was the first time I have talked to him other than a text or saw him. Last time I saw him before this was Sunday/Monday. I know that does not sound like alot of days but we were seeing eachother all the time. We really did not get anything solved becuase I went to watch him bowl and he was bowling against my ex-boyfriend's team and he was there also with all his friends. I was talking to all them and when we left I went home. Guess where he went to the bar. Then he texted me that my ex and all his friends had just got there. Now he told me that he did not want to go out with us on Friday night because they were going to be there but yet he could stay at the bar where they were for like two some hours...not liking them? Am I missing something here or did this come out right? Sorry to ramble on but this is just driving me crazy I am not dating another "wanna be" pro bowler again urggggg

[rebbierae]

This all sounds VERY junior high, except you are in bars drinking, so that can't be. I say quit with the game playing and just ASK him what's going on--TALK to him about it. I've had too many relationships in which I haven't wanted to ask so I assume, and that gets you nothing but trouble. Just communicate with the guy--and if you can't do that, then he's not the right guy.

[drunkengirlfriend]

Quote, originally posted by drunkenvibe »drunkengirlfriend is the luckiest of them all! Yep I get to be the seat cover in Drunken's vibe

[Lancer]

Quote, originally posted by rebbierae »This all sounds VERY junior high, except you are in bars drinking, so that can't be. I say quit with the game playing and just ASK him what's going on--TALK to him about it. I've had too many relationships in which I haven't wanted to ask so I assume, and that gets you nothing but trouble. Just communicate with the guy--and if you can't do that, then he's not the right guy. EXACTLY what I was going to say. Well done!

[kostby]

It's time to raise your standards. Maybe you haven't found the right guy because you're not looking at the right group(s) of candidates or you're not using the right selection criteria.Nothing against bars, but I never expected to meet 'potential-future-spouse-material' there!Take time to enjoy 'the hunt'!

[drunkenmaxx]

Quote, originally posted by kostby »Nothing against bars, but I never expected to meet 'potential-future-spouse-material' there!as hard as it may be to believe > i met drunkengirlfriend in a bar and we are working out pretty damn good!

[PHXLavaVibe]

So did my brother and his wife...Married for 5 years with 4 kids and still going strong.

[rebbierae]

Thanks Lancer! Well, I wonder if she's going to tell us what ever happened???

[Psychobroker]

Quote, originally posted by PHXLavaVibe »So did my brother and his wife...Married for 5 years with 4 kids and still going strong. There are exceptions to every rule..

[drunkenmaxx]

Quote, originally posted by Psychobroker »There are exceptions to every rule..thus the term "functioning alcoholic"

[Charlievibe]

I see someone else has mentioned wondering what's up...so, what's going on these days with your situation?

[fortiffany]

We have had more than one really good talk (including a 45min phone convo) and broke up for a day. We are now back together then had another really good fight. We are currently doing great. I think that this time this one is worth fighting for.

[Charlievibe]

Okay, it is none of my business, but I have to ask. What excuse/explanation did he give for being at the bar after he told you he was going home? I hope he really is worth fighting for. Early on in my life was the most wonderful man. However, I was 18 and stupid. He was graduating from college and was on his way to a job in London, England. I was in the phase of wanting to be my own woman and I told him I didn't want to move to England. I regretted that decision years later. So if he is truly worth fighting for than I say fight. Good luck Tiffany.

[fortiffany]

He never really gave me one. Just wanted to know why I was driving around looking for him. He just said he did not tell me because he knew I would have been mad at him because he was drinking and driving. I said that I would have been less mad if he just told me. We had a talk or two about things that have happend it's been a rough week but it's getting better.